I could never be anything else but a monogamist.
Saying that, I can see the appeal in polyamory where multiple people love each other and are committed to each other. It sounds nice, the idea that you can get everything that you need from multiple people and they’ll all be okay with it.
Why struggle to find one person who hits all your buttons? Find three! It takes the pressure off, less stress, blah blah blah. In a perfect world maybe but the reality is often very different. That’s how I feel watching the docu-soap Sister Wives. I watch it with a morbid sense of curiosity, oddly fascinated at how their family works, or in a lot of cases doesn’t. The family consists of one father and four mothers, each living in separate homes with the father alternating.
One episode I watched involved the main family going on holiday with another poly family. The other family consisted of twin sisters, another woman and the father. This family all lived together in one home and all outwardly showed affection to each other. If I was to ever rationalise a poly-normalcy for me, that would be the picture I imagine. A family living under one roof, openly loving each other. While the family in Sister Wives boast about how their children have extra moms and extra siblings all I ever seem to see is the bickering and discontent. I don’t ever see that extra love that they say is being gained by being in a poly relationship.
Plus, why should the man have the wives? Why is it not the other way around? Why can’t each person have multiple partners?
The whole concept of the show seems so awkward to me. I’m not against it, I just don’t see how it could work. For those who it does, power to you, but the more I watch the show the more I realise that being in a poly relationship is not for me, it isn’t just my upbringing, or taught belief system. It’s nice to reach a concious decision over something like that.